Crocheting and I had to go our separate ways. I am really in knots about it too. 🙂
Turning Setbacks into Comeback: How to Bounce Back Stronger after Failure PART ONE
Turning Setbacks into Comebacks: How to Bounce Back Stronger After Failure – PART ONE
Failure has a way of knocking the wind out of us. Whether it’s a missed opportunity, a project that flopped, or a personal goal that slipped through our fingers, setbacks can feel like full stops at the end of a sentence we weren’t ready to finish.
But here’s the truth: setbacks don’t define your story—how you respond to them does. Many of the most successful people didn’t avoid failure; they learned how to turn it into fuel. A comeback isn’t about pretending the fall didn’t hurt. It’s about using what you learned from the fall to rise smarter, stronger, and more resilient.
Let’s break down how to do exactly that.
Reframe Failure as Feedback. Failure feels personal, but it’s rarely a verdict on your worth or potential. Instead of asking, “Why did I fail?” try asking, “What is this teaching me?”
Every setback carries data: What didn’t work? What assumptions were wrong? What skills need strengthening?
When you treat failure as feedback, you shift from self-blame to self-improvement—and that mindset change alone can be transformative.
Give Yourself Permission to Feel (Briefly) Bouncing back doesn’t mean suppressing disappointment. Ignoring emotions often makes them louder later. Allow yourself to feel frustrated, sad, or even angry—but set a time limit.
Think of it as a “grieving window”: Acknowledge the loss. Process the emotion. Then consciously decide to move forward. Emotion is human. Staying stuck in it is optional.
Separate Your Identity from the Outcome. One failure does not make you a failure. This distinction is crucial. Instead of: “I failed, so I’m not good at this. Try: “This attempt failed, and I can improve the next one.”
When your identity stays intact, your confidence becomes resilient. You remain someone who learns, not someone who loses.
#failureisnotfinal #keepgoing #success #keeptrying #motivation
I’ll take “What is all the candy?” for $500 Alex!
I have a horrible sweet tooth. I love all the candy. If I absolutely had to pick favorites:
- Peachy rings
- Ghiradelli Dark Chocolate Mint Squares
- Wiley Wallaby’s watermelon licorice
New Week Motivation
#learnfromfailure #failureisnotfinal #motivationalpost #inspiration #success #keeptrying

Chapter 24 – “On the Road to Redemption” (from “The Councilman’s Gambit”)
The house felt different. Not just empty, as it had been during the trial, but… hollow.
The silence, once a comforting blanket, now pressed down on Patrick like a physical
weight. He walked through the familiar rooms, each one a stark reminder of the life
he’d almost lost – the life he’d jeopardized through his own ambition and weakness.
The scent of his wife, Sarah’s lavender soap, usually a soothing balm, now felt like a
reproach, a ghost of the woman he’d hurt.
He found Sarah in the kitchen, her back to him, stirring something in a saucepan. The
light from the window illuminated the delicate curve of her neck, a vulnerability that
pierced him with guilt. He’d seen that vulnerability threatened by the dark shadows of
the Syndicate, a vulnerability he’d foolishly allowed to become a weapon against
them, against himself, and against her.
He cleared his throat, the sound brittle and unnatural in the silence. Sarah turned, her
eyes, usually bright and sparkling, now held a weary sadness that mirrored his own.
There was no anger, no outburst – just a quiet resignation that chilled him more than
any fiery tirade could have.
“I am glad you are back. I… I wanted to talk,” he began, his voice barely a whisper.
Sarah didn’t respond immediately. She set down the spoon, her movements slow and
deliberate, as if she were handling something fragile, something precious that could
easily be broken.
“Is there anything to talk about, Patrick?” she finally asked, her voice flat, devoid of
emotion. The tone was a blow to his already battered soul.
“About us. About everything.”
She sighed, a sound heavy with unspoken pain, and turned back to the stove.
“Everything is different now, Patrick. Everything is changed.”
He watched her, the silence stretching between them, thick and suffocating. The air
was heavy with the unspoken accusations, the betrayals, the fears that had haunted
them both throughout the trial. He’d seen the headlines, read the articles, listened to
the whispers. He knew what they thought of him: a corrupt official, a man who’d
betrayed the public trust. But the worst was the thought of what Sarah must have felt,
the weight of his betrayal bearing down on her alone.
He sat down at the kitchen table, the worn wood cool beneath his hands. The image
of the cold, polished mahogany in the courtroom flashed in his mind, a painful
reminder of his recent past. He had stared at that mahogany, feeling its chilling
coldness as a metaphor for his own isolation, the legal machinations seeming to trap
him in an endless cycle of his own making.
“I know what I did was wrong,” he said, his voice thick with remorse. “I know I hurt
you, I hurt us.”
Sarah finally turned, her eyes meeting his, and for a moment, he saw a flicker of the
woman he loved – a spark of hope in the ashes of his failures. But it was quickly
extinguished, replaced by the same weary sadness.
“Wrong doesn’t cover it, Patrick. You risked everything – our lives, our future – for…
what? For a few votes? For some extra money?” Her voice was calm, controlled, but
the pain was evident in the tremor of her hands.
He swallowed, unable to speak for a moment. He had no easy answers, no elegant
explanations to soothe her pain. The truth was brutal, ugly – a reflection of his own
flawed judgment and desperate ambition.
He reached across the table, his hand hovering over hers. She didn’t pull away, but
neither did she allow him to touch her. The simple act of being near her felt like a
monumental task. He’d lost his trust, and regaining it seemed an insurmountable
mountain.
He began to recount the events that had led him to the brink, painting a picture of the
insidious pressure, the subtle threats, the carefully constructed lies. He didn’t excuse
his actions, but he attempted to explain them, to provide context, to show her the
agonizing choices he’d faced, the internal struggle that had almost broken him.
He spoke of the financial pressures, the mountain of debt that had overwhelmed him,
the weight of expectation from his constituents, the fear of failure. He described the
initial allure of the Syndicate’s offer, the seductive whisper of easy money, the
promise of security. He confessed his moments of weakness, the brief period when
he’d considered accepting their proposal, the insidious temptation that had gripped
him. He detailed the internal battle, the moral dilemma that had torn at his soul. He
spoke of the quiet moments of doubt, the nights he’d spent staring at the ceiling,
wrestling with his conscience. He described the gradual dawning of his realization
that he was heading down a perilous path. He recounted the growing unease, the
mounting fear, and the eventual decision to turn against them. He confessed the
moments of sheer terror, the constant fear that he might be found out, betrayed by
the very people he’d tried to cooperate with.
He spoke of Eleanor Vance, the unflappable lawyer who had navigated the
treacherous waters of the legal system and saved him from worse. He spoke of her
shrewd tactics, her skillful defense, her unwavering loyalty and friendship. He spoke
of the moment he realized that his life was inextricably intertwined with hers.
He spoke of Judge Reed, of the weight of her judgment, and of the uneasy relief that
followed her verdict. He spoke of his gratitude, and the heavy burden he still carried,
the guilt and shame that would forever haunt him.
He confessed his feelings of failure, the crushing weight of his errors, and the fear of
the future. He spoke of his hope for healing, for forgiveness, for a chance to rebuild
the life that he’d almost lost, both professionally and personally.
He spoke for hours, unburdening himself, pouring out his soul to the woman he loved.
When he finished, silence descended again, this time gentler, less charged with
unspoken accusations.
Sarah was crying, tears silently tracing paths down her cheeks. He reached out, his
hand gently covering hers this time, his touch hesitant but full of sincerity. This time,
she didn’t pull away. She squeezed his hand, the gesture small but powerful, a sign of
acknowledgment, a glimmer of hope.
“I… I’m still angry,” she finally whispered, her voice thick with emotion. “But… I hear
you. I think… I think I understand.”
It wasn’t forgiveness, not yet. But it was a start. A fragile beginning on a long and
difficult road to reconciliation, a road paved with remorse, understanding, and the
painstaking work of rebuilding trust. The path ahead remained uncertain, but as he
held Sarah’s hand, felt the warmth of her touch, he knew that he wasn’t alone. He had
a chance, a chance at redemption, a chance to heal the wounds he’d inflicted, a
chance to rebuild the life he’d almost lost. And that, in itself, was a reason to hope.
The future remained uncertain, but the path toward healing had begun. Their home,
once hollow and empty during her absence, began to feel like a home again, filled with the quiet hope that maybe, just maybe, they could rebuild their lives together, piece by piece, day by day. The city may not forgive him, but Sarah’s understanding was the first step toward his own redemption.
#newbook #fiction #politicalthriller #adventure #thecouncilmansgambit

From adulting
Adulting is hard.
Chapter 12 “The Web of Deceit” (From “The Skeleton in the Hayride” murder mystery)
“Was there anyone else involved in the planning who might have had disagreements
with Mr. Thorne?” Brody pressed, trying to gauge the extent of Thorne’s influence
and the potential for friction.
Martha hesitated, her brow furrowing. “Well, everyone had their moments with Elias.
He had a way of making even the most simple decisions feel like a high-stakes
negotiation. There was the issue with the cider press demonstration. He insisted on
sourcing apples from a particular orchard outside of town, an orchard that was, shall
we say, less than reputable. When our agricultural liaison pointed out that the apples
were of poor quality and potentially diseased, Elias accused her of ‘lacking vision’ and
‘being afraid of progress.’ He wanted to showcase ‘heritage’ apples, but his idea of
heritage seemed to involve anything that was difficult to obtain or financially dubious.
It caused quite a bit of friction with the local farmers who were donating their
produce.”
She picked up another document, a vendor application. “And then there were the
craft stalls. Elias had very strict ideas about what constituted ‘artisan quality.’ He
wanted to vet every single vendor, looking for a specific aesthetic that, frankly,
excluded most of our long-time local artisans. He claimed they were ‘too commercial’
or their work lacked ‘sophistication.’ He was trying to curate the entire festival, to
make it reflect his own very particular tastes, regardless of the impact on the
community or the livelihoods of the people who participated year after year.”
“So, he was actively trying to exert control over who participated and what was
displayed?” Brody summarized, the picture becoming increasingly clear.
“Absolutely,” Martha confirmed, her voice firm despite her visible weariness. “He saw
the festival as his canvas. And anyone who dared to suggest a different brushstroke,
or worse, a different artist entirely, was met with his considerable displeasure. His
threats about withdrawing funding weren’t idle. He had the power to do it. He was a
significant donor, and he made sure everyone knew it. It made him untouchable, in
his own mind, at least. He could bully and badger, and we had to grin and bear it
because, without his money, the festival would have been a much smaller, much less
impressive affair.”
She leaned forward, lowering her voice conspiratorially. “Frankly, Sheriff, I’m not
entirely surprised something like this happened. Elias was a very… demanding man.
He thrived on conflict, on pushing people to their limits. He enjoyed the power
dynamic, the feeling of being in charge. I’ve had more than one sleepless night
worrying about how he was going to derail the entire event with one of his
unreasonable demands. But I never… I never imagined anything like this.”
Her eyes met Brody’s, filled with a mixture of shock and a dawning, unsettling
understanding. “He was so focused on his vision for those roadside displays, so
insistent on getting his way, that he seemed completely oblivious to the resentment
he was building. He was so sure of his own importance, his own superiority, that he
couldn’t see how he was alienating people. He’d walk into planning meetings,
brimming with his own self-importance, and dismiss any concerns with a wave of his
hand. He was arrogant, Sheriff, deeply arrogant.”
“And his threats to withdraw funding,” Brody prompted, wanting to ensure he had
captured the full extent of Thorne’s pressure. “When exactly did those become more
pronounced?”
“It was in the last few weeks, really,” Martha admitted. “As the festival got closer, his
demands became more frantic. He wanted to overhaul the entire lighting system for
Orchard Road, not just add to it. He wanted a central control panel, a sophisticated
timer system that would sync all the displays. When we explained that it was too late
to implement such a complex system and that it would require additional,
unscheduled expenditures, that’s when he became truly aggressive. He reminded me,
quite pointedly, that his sponsorship was contingent on the ‘artistic integrity’ of the
festival, and that if he felt that integrity was being compromised by a lack of… vision,
he wouldn’t hesitate to pull his support. He said he could easily redirect that money
to another community project, one that ‘appreciated true innovation.’”
Martha shuddered again. “It felt like he was deliberately trying to create problems, to
provoke a reaction. He knew we couldn’t afford to lose his funding, not at this late
stage. It was a power play, pure and simple. He wanted to demonstrate his absolute
control. He was found near that very stretch of road, wasn’t he? The one he was so
fixated on. The one he was trying to transform into his own personal monument.”
Brody nodded slowly, the pieces clicking into place. Thorne’s obsessive focus on the
roadside displays, particularly the stretch of Orchard Road where his body was found,
and his escalating threats to withdraw funding, painted a picture of a man who was
not only difficult but actively manipulative and coercive in the lead-up to his death.
His desire to control even the minutiae of the festival’s decorations seemed to mirror
his controlling nature in his personal relationships and neighbourly dealings. The
festival, meant to be a celebration of community and harvest, had, under Thorne’s
influence, become a battleground for his own ego. Martha Jennings’s unease, her
admission of Thorne’s aggressive tactics and veiled threats, provided a crucial new
dimension to the investigation, suggesting that Thorne’s demise might be directly
linked to his relentless pursuit of dominance, even in the seemingly innocuous
planning of a local festival. The elaborate archway, the unsettling scarecrows, the
very spot where he lay dead – all seemed to be imbued with the dark shadow of Elias
Thorne’s ambition and his terrifying ability to turn civic pride into personal power.
Sheriff Brody retreated to the quiet solitude of his office, the faint scent of pine and
stale coffee a familiar comfort against the unsettling undercurrent of Elias Thorne’s
demise. The coffee Martha Jennings had offered, while appreciated, hadn’t quite
managed to dispel the chill that had settled deep in his bones. Thorne, it seemed, was
a man who collected enemies as readily as he collected ornate, and likely overpriced,
festival decorations. Brody opened the file containing the initial statements, the neat
handwriting a stark contrast to the messy, tangled web of Thorne’s dealings. His task
now was to weave through these statements, to find the threads that held true and
the ones that were deliberately frayed. He spread the collected alibis across his desk,
a patchwork quilt of timelines and assertions, each one a potential truth, or a
carefully constructed lie.
Arthur Finch, the proprietor of Finch’s Fine Foods, Thorne’s supposed business rival
and a vocal critic of Thorne’s monopolistic tendencies in securing festival contracts,
had claimed to be working late at his own establishment. His statement was precise,
detailing inventory checks and supplier invoices that occupied his time until well past
midnight. Brody, however, had a particular fondness for paper trails, and Finch’s were
usually as meticulously organized as his deli counter. He’d dispatched Deputy Miller
to Finch’s earlier that afternoon, requesting access to business records for the night
in question. The report had just landed on his desk, a crisp manila folder that felt
heavier than its contents suggested.
Miller’s findings were indeed intriguing. While Finch’s financial ledgers showed a
flurry of activity consistent with a busy evening, a closer examination of his
appointment book, cross-referenced with credit card receipts and time-stamped
deliveries, revealed a curious anomaly. A handwritten note in Finch’s own distinctive,
slightly florid script marked an unscheduled, late-night meeting at 10:30 PM. The
recipient was simply noted as “V.I.P.” and the location left vague: “The usual place.”
Brody frowned. Finch had been insistent that he’d been alone at his store, engrossed
in paperwork. Yet, “the usual place” for a clandestine meeting, especially one he felt
the need to conceal from the authorities, was a question that now gnawed at him.
Finch’s alibi, while seemingly solid on the surface, was beginning to show cracks
under the scrutiny of simple diligence. Who was this “V.I.P.”? And why the secrecy? It
was certainly plausible that Finch, a man who openly disdained Thorne, might have
had reason to meet someone discreetly, perhaps to discuss Thorne’s overreach or to
find common ground in their shared annoyance. But the timing, coinciding with the
hours Thorne was likely killed, made it a lead too significant to ignore. Brody pulled
out Finch’s statement again, re-reading the section detailing his solitary work. He’d
mentioned working on the final budget projections for the upcoming farmer’s market,
a task that required his complete concentration. The description was detailed, almost
too detailed, as if he were reciting a script. The vagueness of the “V.I.P.” meeting,
coupled with the precise nature of his declared solitary work, felt like a carefully
calibrated act.
Next on Brody’s list was Clara Bellweather, the enigmatic owner of the local antique
shop and a woman known for her quiet reserve and her passion for the town’s history.
Thorne had reportedly had a public spat with her a few weeks prior, over a historical
artifact he intended to “enhance” with modern lighting for the festival, a proposition
Clara had vehemently opposed, citing damage to the delicate piece. Clara’s alibi was
that she had been at home, tending to a family matter – her elderly aunt, who had
been visiting from out of town. She claimed to have spent the evening with her aunt,
sharing stories and preparing an early supper. It was a simple, unassuming alibi,
difficult to disprove without directly contradicting a vulnerable elderly woman.
However, the small, interconnected nature of Oakhaven meant that even the most
secluded lives sometimes intersected unexpectedly. As Brody sifted through witness
statements gathered from the festival grounds and surrounding areas, a casual
remark from a young woman named Sarah Jenkins, who had volunteered to help with
the hayride setup, caught his eye. Sarah, a shy teenager with a penchant for
observation, had mentioned seeing someone who “looked a lot like Clara Bellweather”
near the eastern edge of the festival grounds, close to where the hayride route looped
back towards the main thoroughfare. She’d been retrieving fallen hay bales that had
been dislodged by the brisk wind, an activity that had taken her slightly away from the
main thoroughfare and closer to the wooded area bordering Orchard Road. It was
nearly dusk, and the light was fading, but Sarah had been certain of the figure’s
distinctive auburn hair, pulled back in a neat bun, and the long, dark coat she was
wearing. The description, while not a definitive identification, was compelling enough
to warrant further investigation. Clara Bellweather, the woman who prided herself on
preserving the past, had seemingly been in a place where Thorne’s present was
violently interrupted.
Brody leaned back, the springs of his chair groaning in protest. He recalled his brief
conversation with Clara Bellweather earlier that day. She had been composed, her
voice even and soft as she recounted her evening with her aunt. She had described
preparing a pot roast, the comforting aroma filling her small, cluttered kitchen, and
the quiet companionship of her aunt, whose eyesight was failing. Her aunt, Agnes, a
frail woman with a gentle smile, had corroborated the story when Brody had paid her
a brief visit. Agnes had confirmed Clara’s presence, recalling the familiar scent of
roast meat and the soft murmur of conversation. “Clara always makes sure I’m well
looked after,” she’d said, her voice raspy but clear. “She wouldn’t leave my side.”
Yet, Sarah Jenkins’s sighting, however tentative, introduced a discordant note into
this otherwise harmonious narrative. If Clara was indeed at home, how could
someone matching her description be near the hayride route, a considerable distance
from her house and on the opposite side of town from Thorne’s property? Brody
pulled up the festival map, tracing the hayride route with his finger. It meandered
through the apple orchards, offering scenic views of the countryside, before circling
back towards the community hall. The eastern edge, where Sarah had seen the figure,
was indeed close to the stretch of Orchard Road that had become the grim focal point
of the investigation. The late afternoon light, as Sarah had described, would have been
deceptive, casting long shadows and distorting appearances.
He considered Clara’s motive. Her opposition to Thorne’s destructive artistic
interventions was well-documented. Thorne’s plan to encase a centuries-old
wrought-iron gate, a historical piece Clara had painstakingly restored, in a pulsating
LED light display had been the final straw. She had argued passionately, her usual
reticence replaced by a fiery indignation, that Thorne was desecrating history for the
sake of fleeting spectacle. Thorne, in turn, had dismissed her concerns with his
characteristic arrogance, labeling her a “sentimental old fool” who couldn’t appreciate
innovation. The confrontation had been overheard by several festival volunteers, who
had described Clara as being visibly shaken, but also resolute in her opposition. Could
this quiet historian, this guardian of Oakhaven’s past, have been pushed to a breaking
point?
The thought sent a ripple of unease through Brody. In Oakhaven, where reputations
were as fragile as antique porcelain, and where grudges could fester like undeclared
debts, it was easy for simmering resentments to boil over. He remembered the sheer
force of personality Thorne had exuded, the way he could intimidate and belittle with
a single, dismissive gesture. It was the kind of pressure that could crack even the
most placid surface.
#mystery #theskeletoninthehayride #newbook #fiction #adventure #suspects

Hands down….COFFEE
To the individual or individuals who discovered how to derive coffee from a tiny bean, I am forever in your debt
My ideal day…
II would wake up drinking coffee with the world at peace and not open my news feed to a hate filled article being at the top of the feed
My life perspective:
Time DOES NOT heal all wounds. It just dulls the edges.
Some mountains are NOT worth dying on.
Investing in relationships rather than having “stuff” produces far better long term gains.
I am glad I had my faith to get me through all of it so far….
